I’m just taking ten minutes to reflect on the past decade, and being a glass half full kind of woman, I hadn’t really noticed the magnitude of the last 10 years. But in fact it dealt out literally life changing events which should be reflected upon and acknowledge.
I lost my my father, father-in-law and mother-in-law, within a week of each other. I was diagnosed with breast cancer, and underwent surgery, chemotherapy and radiotherapy. It was a gruelling and challenging time, juggling treatments with an extremely anxious teenager, doing GCSE’s. Then, my husband, who had experienced increased difficulty walking over the previous few years, was diagnosed with a rare form of muscular dystrophy. A couple of years later he was forced to take early retirement and our plans for the future have had to change and we now embark on a different kind of life.
Now, don’t get me wrong, I’m certainly not feeling sorry for myself, but since starting Braver than I knew, l have become increasing aware of how important it is to recognise such events, and the impact they have on our lives. Life changing events need to be acknowledged, addressed and hopefully put to bed, in order for us to move on with our lives and get as much from them as possible.
We all have different ways to deal with what we face. Whatever that may be, counselling, support groups, personal journaling or as in my case, just good friends to talk to and a note in my diary. Do whatever is necessary, and seek help whenever you need it, be that immediately or five years down the line. Don’t let the wall build up inside your head, as you stack one difficulty on top of another, not addressing it properly, because eventually the wall will fall down and you will hit rock bottom and have to face all those events in one go.
So let’s make this the decade we look after ourselves. Putting ourselves first, or self love, is not a selfish act, but one that everyone around you will benefit from. Listen to your body and mind and if it’s asking for help, get it some. It might be as simple as a chat with a friend over a nice glass of wine, but let’s learn to deal with ‘stuff’ as it arises and spare ourselves the wall falling down.
Wishing you all the very best in 2020